a Podcast by Intend to Relate
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Ladies, this one is for you.
Volume Two: To Her opens another path through the developing Intend to Relate framework. We are speaking directly to women—about your desires, your participation, your choices, and the power you exercise in relating. Everyone is welcome to listen, consider, question, and participate.
What kind of relationship do you want to help create?
Where do you want to lead, follow, provide, or receive? What would you like another person to take responsibility for? What authority are you inviting them to exercise? And how will the two of you come to understand what any of that means?
These questions begin a conversation about relational power and exchange. They also bring us toward something very practical: making your preferences intelligible, your invitations clear, and your participation intentional.
Where we begin
Season One is “The Spectrum of Her Relational Power and Exchange.”
The opening episode, “She Put the Dom in He,” begins with dominance, submission, and the part her own participation plays in the relationship taking shape.
What happens when she wants him to lead? What is she inviting, recognizing, requesting, or accepting? What does that invitation include—and where does it end?
Answering those questions requires greater precision about the relationship being considered.
The Three-Axis Power Description begins separating provision, relational authority, and sexual position or power. Each dimension gives us something different to examine. Wanting a partner who provides, for example, leaves open how decisions are made, what authority each person holds, and what either person wants sexually.
A broad label can introduce a preference. The details help another person understand it.
From there, we begin examining how desires become invitations, how authority is recognized, and how people arrive at agreements about their participation. The distinctions between consent and assent become part of that inquiry, alongside the continuing sovereignty of each participant.
The conversation then moves into the power of words.
Episode Two, “In the beginning was the Word with Power, and the Word was Power,” considers truthful communication as an exercise of relational power. A clearly expressed desire gives another person something they can understand and respond to.
The four communication duties—expression, disclosure, inquiry, and assertion—give us ways to examine that work. What have you made known? What does the other person need to understand? What should you ask? What position do you need to state for yourself?
We also begin distinguishing discussion from negotiation: what changes when the participants are seeking a resolution and considering one another’s input?
These are questions we can bring into ordinary encounters, one request and one response at a time.
A path through the work
To Her is a podcast accompanying the development of the forthcoming second volume of the Intend to Relate canon.
The original Intend to Relate Podcast develops the broader vocabulary and framework. To Her brings that work into direct conversation with women, with its own starting questions and particular address.
We will move between concepts and their applications: the roles you want to inhabit, the responsibilities you are willing to undertake, the care you want to give and receive, and the understandings you reach with another person.
Your experience belongs in that inquiry. A useful formulation should help you recognize something more clearly, ask a better question, or make a more deliberate choice. Your experience may also expose something the formulation has missed.
The questions are philosophical, and their consequences are personal. They reach into the invitation you make, the arrangement you accept, the disagreement you address, and the relationship you help bring into being.
Where should I start?
Begin with Episode One: “She Put the Dom in He.” Then continue into the season’s exploration of relational power, communication, and exchange.
For the broader foundations, Season One of the original Intend to Relate Podcast introduces the shared vocabulary and orientation.
Bring your judgment with you. Consider the concepts, try applying them, and notice what becomes clearer. Ask where a distinction helps—and where it needs more work.
And let us hear from you. Bring a question, a disagreement, an experience that complicates the picture, or a possibility we have yet to consider. Your response can become part of how this work develops.
Join us for Volume Two: To Her.
Be free, and be good to each other—intentionally.
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